Financial Planning for Blended Families

ByNathan Paulus
Edited byRae Osborn

Updated: September 8, 2023

ByNathan Paulus
Edited byRae Osborn

Updated: September 8, 2023

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Blended families are an increasingly common family structure in the United States. Because of its distinct family structure, blended families face unique financial obstacles like differing financial habits, obligations from previous relationships and the need to plan for the future of a larger family unit.

MoneyGeek compiled a list of financial planning resources specifically for blended families to help navigate these complexities, build trust, set realistic expectations and work towards shared financial goals.

Statistics on Blended Families in the United States


Blended families are becoming more and more common. These blended family statistics offer some insight into this unique family structure:

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Nearly 1 out of 10 children were living in married or cohabiting stepfamilies in 2019.

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Around 1 in 10 men and women who entered their first marriage before age 30 were in a stepfamily.

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40% of married couples with children involve at least one partner with a child from a previous relationship.

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62% of married/cohabiting couples under 55 have at least one stepkin relationship in the three generations, based on a 2017 study.

What Is a Blended Family?

A blended family, also known as a stepfamily, is a family where at least one parent has children from a previous relationship, making the child or children part of the new family dynamic.

In 2019, one out of 10 children were living in married or cohabiting stepfamilies. The rise in divorce, remarriage and cohabitation has contributed to the increase in blended families, representing a diverse and evolving form of family structure in the country.

How to Discuss Finances in a Blended Family

Embarking on the journey of blending families involves more than just emotional readiness. It also requires financial transparency as each family member brings their financial history, habits and expectations into the mix.

By openly discussing finances with their partner, families can build trust and prevent misunderstandings or conflicts that could arise from hidden assets, undisclosed debts or unexpressed financial expectations. Regular financial discussions should not be a one-time event but an ongoing dialogue even after marriage to ensure everyone stays on the same page regarding the family's financial situation and goals.

Discussion Before Marriage

These pre-marriage financial discussions can help set realistic expectations, allowing for smoother financial integration.

  • Initiate a Comprehensive Discussion: Start having detailed and candid financial discussions before joining families, where all parties involved disclose their financial situations. These discussions include sharing information about savings, investments, real estate and other valuable possessions. Revealing all debts is equally important as it can significantly impact the family's financial health.
  • Full Financial Disclosure: Full disclosure provides a clear picture of the family's financial standing. It helps in understanding the extent of liabilities and in planning how to merge and manage the assets.
  • Dive into Financial Personalities: Discussing individual financial habits and philosophies, spending patterns and attitudes towards money can help uncover potential differences and allow family members to better understand each other's financial values.

Post-Marriage Financial Discussions

The need for ongoing financial discussions within a blended family remains paramount even after marriage.

  • Regular Check-Ins: Financial situations can change due to factors such as job changes, health issues or economic fluctuations. Regular financial check-ins ensure that all family members are updated about these changes and can adjust plans and expectations accordingly.
  • Platform for Collective Planning: Use financial discussions for family members to set and track financial goals as well as express their views, concerns and aspirations. Whether it's about making a significant purchase, investing in a new opportunity or adjusting the family budget, these conversations ensure that decisions are made collectively.

Couples entering blended families can benefit from resources provided by Smart Stepfamilies, Stepfamily Foundation and the National Stepfamily Resource Center (NSRC). These organizations offer guidance on financial discussions, ensuring couples are well-prepared for their journey.

How to Divide Assets in a Blended Family

One complex aspect of financial planning in a blended family is the division of assets. This process involves more than just splitting assets down the middle. It requires legal aspects and careful consideration of each family member's financial needs, responsibilities and contributions.

Factors to Consider When Dividing Assets

When dividing assets in a blended family, taking into account these essential factors can lead to a harmonious process and ensure a fair and equitable distribution:

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    Financial Needs and Responsibilities

    Begin by assessing each family member’s specific financial needs and responsibilities. This could range from daily living expenses and medical costs to long-term financial obligations like student loans or alimony payments.

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    Children's Future Needs

    Children from previous relationships may be of varying ages with different financial needs. Younger children may have more immediate needs, while older children may be nearing college age, necessitating a larger financial allocation.

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    Income Levels and Contributions

    The income levels and financial contributions of each adult in the family should be considered. Those who contribute more financially may need a larger share of the assets to maintain their financial responsibilities.

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    Value of Assets Brought Into Marriage

    Assets brought into the marriage by each partner should be evaluated in the division process. These could include savings, investments, real estate and other valuable possessions. Ensure that the original value of these assets is recognized in the division process.

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    Debt and Financial Obligations

    This includes mortgages, loans, credit card debts and other financial commitments. Allocating assets in a way that helps manage and resolve these financial burdens can promote better financial security for the family.

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    Emotional Considerations

    Some assets may hold more sentimental value to one family member over another. Understanding and acknowledging these emotions can help approach the process with sensitivity, empathy and respect.

Legal Aspects: Prenuptial Agreements and Estate Planning

Navigating the complex financial landscape in a blended family requires careful consideration of two crucial legal tools: prenuptial agreements and estate planning.

Prenuptial Agreements

A prenuptial agreement, often referred to as a "prenup," is a legal document created before marriage that outlines the ownership of each individual's assets and how they will be divided in the event of divorce or death. In the context of a blended family, a prenup can protect individual assets, define financial responsibilities and reduce conflicts and uncertainties. It’s also a way to address the financial needs of children from previous relationships, ensuring their financial well-being is taken into account.

Estate Planning

Proper estate planning allows individuals to designate beneficiaries for their assets, which is particularly important in blended families with children from previous relationships. Without clear estate planning, assets may be distributed based on default laws, potentially leaving loved ones vulnerable. Blended families can customize asset distribution by establishing wills, trusts and other estate-planning documents to ensure their wishes are upheld. Estate planning can also involve naming guardians for minors, thus providing for their future care.

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Every blended family is unique. Consult with legal professionals experienced in handling blended family situations when considering prenuptial agreements and estate planning. These professionals can provide invaluable insights, assess the family’s specific circumstances and offer tailored legal advice to address individual needs and concerns.

How to Handle Financial Disagreements and Conflicts

Financial disagreements and conflicts are not uncommon in any family, and blended families are no exception. Here are some strategies to effectively handle such situations:

Open Communication

Each party should have the opportunity to express their views and concerns. Doing so can help identify the root cause of the financial disagreement and pave the way for finding a solution.


It's important to understand that it may not be possible for everyone to get everything they want. Being willing to give and take can help reach a resolution.

Professional Advice

Seeking professional advice may sometimes be helpful. Financial advisors or counselors can provide an objective perspective and offer practical solutions based on their expertise and experience.

Respect and Understanding

Maintain respect and understanding of each other's views and feelings during financial discussions, even if you disagree. This helps keep the conversation productive and prevents it from escalating into a full-blown conflict.

Shared Financial Goals

Always remember the bigger picture. Finding common ground and working towards shared financial goals can help keep the family united and focused despite disagreements.

Managing Daily Finances: Income, Expenses and Budgeting

From handling finances and splitting costs to creating a family budget, this section provides actionable insights to help you navigate these daily financial tasks effectively and harmoniously.

How Do Blended Families Handle Finances?

Blended families can employ various methods to manage their finances, each with its advantages and considerations. Here are some common strategies:

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    Joint Accounts

    Joint accounts can help blended families save for shared goals, pay for shared expenses and get a clearer picture of each person's savings. This method promotes transparency and collective decision-making but requires a high level of trust and open communication, as either party can typically withdraw funds without the other person's consent.

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    Separate Accounts

    Although a joint account can be used for shared expenses, maintaining separate accounts for personal expenses can help ensure financial autonomy. Separating accounts is also recommended when one partner has financial obligations from a previous relationship, like child support.

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    Combination of Joint and Separate Accounts

    Blended families can use a joint account for shared expenses like mortgage payments or groceries but maintain separate accounts for personal expenses. This hybrid approach balances collective responsibility with individual autonomy.

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Two smart strategies blended families can use to meet their financial responsibilities are:

  • Regular Financial Check-Ins: Hold monthly or quarterly meetings to discuss finances, ensuring everyone is informed and fostering collective responsibility.

  • Budgeting: Regularly review and adjust a comprehensive budget. Aim to allocate 20% of income to savings, 50% to necessities and 30% to discretionary spending.

How to Split Costs in a Blended Family

Splitting costs can be a complex process in a blended family. Here are some strategies to adopt:

  • Proportional to Income: One common method is to split costs proportionally based on each adult's income. For instance, if one adult earns 60% of the total family income, they would contribute 60% towards shared expenses.
  • Equal Division: Another approach is to divide costs equally among adults, regardless of individual income. This method emphasizes shared responsibility but may not be feasible if there's a significant income disparity.
  • Based on Consumption: Some families may split costs based on individual consumption, especially for expenses like personal items or activities.

Establish a fair system that considers each adult's financial capabilities. Financial situations can change, so flexibility and regular adjustments are key. For example, if one adult's income decreases, the family may need to revisit their cost-splitting strategy.

Creating a Blended Family Budget

Budgeting provides a clear picture of where the family's money is going and helps identify areas where adjustments might be needed. Here's a step-by-step guide on how to create a blended family budget.

List Income Sources

Start by listing all sources of income for the family. The list should include salaries, bonuses, child support, alimony and any other regular income.

Track Expenses

This expense tracker should cover both fixed costs like electricity, car payments and rent or mortgage payments, as well as variable costs like personal spending on groceries and entertainment.

Set Financial Goals

Identify your family's financial goals — from short-term goals like buying a new gadget to long-term goals like building your retirement fund or children's education.

Create the Budget

Allocate funds to each category of expenses and savings based on income and financial goals.

Review and Adjust Regularly

A budget isn't set in stone. Revisit and adjust the budget according to changes in income, expenses or financial goals.

Involving all family members in the budgeting process fosters a sense of responsibility and commitment. This practice teaches them valuable financial skills and helps ensure everyone understands the family's financial situation.

Should You Pay for Your Stepchildren?

Deciding whether to financially support stepchildren is a personal decision that hinges on several factors: financial agreement with the other biological parent, the child's needs and your financial capability.

There's no obligation to provide financial support to your stepchildren — any assistance you offer should stem from a place of genuine willingness, not from a sense of imposed duty. If appropriate, have open discussions with your partner about this topic and with the children. You could also contribute in non-monetary ways, such as investing time in their education or hobbies.

Planning for the Future: Long-Term Financial Planning

Long-term financial planning in a blended family involves setting shared financial goals, planning for retirement and preparing for future expenses such as children's education. This process requires foresight, open communication and a commitment to shared family objectives.

Setting Shared Financial Goals

Shared financial goals — such as buying a home, saving for vacations and building an emergency fund — unite the family and provide an opportunity to teach children about financial planning. The process involves identifying goals, determining costs and setting a realistic timeline.

Regular reviews are essential to track progress and make necessary adjustments. Open communication and mutual respect ensure everyone's views are heard and needs are considered.

Saving for Retirement in a Blended Family

Consider the retirement assets each spouse brings into the marriage, including Social Security, retirement plans, annuities and taxable investments. Couples should also discuss what their retirement will look like and how much they need to save. Beneficiary designations on family life insurance policies and retirement plans should be up-to-date, reflecting the current marital status.

Retirement planning should also include a discussion about taxes, exploring options like income splitting, spousal RRSPs, and gifting funds for TFSA deposits. Working with a financial advisor can help couples in blended families navigate these complexities and establish a retirement plan that maximizes their combined retirement assets.

Planning for Children's Education and Other Future Expenses

With multiple children, having a strategy in place is a mindful thing to do. For instance, a blended family might have a child heading to college while another is just starting kindergarten. Tools like education savings accounts or 529 plans can be beneficial in setting aside funds for future educational expenses.

Parents should also be aware that remarriage can impact a student's college financial aid eligibility. According to the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) guidelines, stepparent's income and assets must be reported if the custodial parent remarries. This inclusion can potentially influence the student’s total financial aid eligibility regardless of prenuptial agreements.

Future expenses such as weddings or helping children buy their first home should also be part of the financial planning process. Balance these future expenses with other financial goals and responsibilities to avoid compromising your retirement savings or emergency fund.

Additional Resources

  1. The Stepfamily Foundation: This organization offers resources and support to blended families, helping them navigate the unique challenges they face.
  2. National Stepfamily Resource Center: A comprehensive resource center that provides research-backed information and advice for stepfamilies.
  3. FamilyLife Blended: Offers biblically-based materials to build stepfamilies, avoid remarriage and halt the divorce cycle.
  4. Focus on the Family: Blended Families: Offers a variety of resources for remarriage and blended families, including articles, books and broadcasts.
  5.’s Blended Families page provides research and tips for navigating the challenges of blended families.
  6. Blended Family Frappe: Provides a list of online and offline resources on becoming a stepparent, dealing with a high-conflict ex and handling parental alienation.

About Nathan Paulus

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Nathan Paulus is the Head of Content Marketing at MoneyGeek, with nearly 10 years of experience researching and creating content related to personal finance and financial literacy.

Paulus has a bachelor's degree in English from the University of St. Thomas, Houston. He enjoys helping people from all walks of life build stronger financial foundations.