Getting the Most Out of Living Together: 5 Tips for Managing Money With Roommates
Explore these five tips to help you avoid unnecessary conflicts and enjoy the financial benefits of living with another person.
Living with a roommate — whether you choose to do so with a friend, family member, romantic partner or stranger — can be an exciting prospect. Unfortunately, roommate scenarios aren’t always perfect, especially if financial disagreements arise. To sidestep these challenges, let’s look at ways you can go about managing roommate finances to make your experience a positive one.
1. Make Sure Your Roommate Is Financially Compatible
The U.S. Census Bureau reported that more than 81 million adults aged 18 and older lived in shared households in 2019. There’s a lot to consider before signing a lease and living with another person.
You’ll want to make sure that you’re financially compatible. You can start by asking your prospective roommate questions like the following:
Money questions to ask your roommate
- Can your income support your portion of the bills?
- Do you have a track record of paying your bills on time?
- Are you open to building an emergency savings fund if one of us can’t pay the rent?
- What type of payment schedule do you prefer? Regular or periodic?
- Are you comfortable with sharing your credit report and score?
These types of questions can open the lines of communication between you and your roommate and help you feel confident that you’re a good match for one another.
2. Discuss How to Split Your Bills
Before moving in together, it’s important to determine how to set up finances with a roommate. Will one of you pay the rent while the other pays the utilities, internet, etc.? Or will you divide all of the bills down the middle every month?
Whether you’re a first-time renter or already have a place and want to take on a roommate, think about how you’ll divide your costs for these items:
- Rent or mortgage
- Utilities (electric/gas)
- Groceries, toiletries, bulbs, kitchen items and other essential needs
- Maintenance costs and HOA fees (if buying)
After deciding how to split your bills, consider writing everything down. Outline your joint monthly bills and other expenses, which roommate is responsible for paying what bills, the amount each roommate will pay and due dates for those bills.
3. Don’t Be Too Shy to Ask for the Rent
According to a 2018 FINRA Foundation’s National Financial Capability Study, 44% of respondents felt that discussing finances with others was stressful, while 53% said that even thinking about finances made them anxious.
While financial discussions aren’t easy, particularly those involving rent payments, they’re typically crucial in helping you and your roommate determine the best ways to manage important expenses.
Remember that leases often contain a “joint and several liability” clause. This clause states that each person signing the lease is responsible for each month's total amount. In other words, if one of you doesn’t pay their portion for one month, the other has to pay the entire rent amount by its due date. So no matter how uncomfortable the discussion might be, it is one you should have.
If you want to ask for the rent from your roommate and are worried about an uncomfortable interaction, here are some tips you can consider to make it easier:
- Have a monthly meeting. Before even moving in together, you can decide with your roommate that you will hold a monthly meeting to discuss bills that need to be paid, when and how they should be paid, and who will pay them.
- Ask for the rent through a payment app. If you’re able to make rent payments through free apps like Venmo or Zelle, you could send your roommate a payment reminder through the app without having an awkward in-person discussion.
- Initiate a group chat. If you have more than one roommate, a group chat can be a great way to get your roommates involved in the conversation about rent while remaining lighthearted.
4. Decide How to Manage Renters Insurance with Roommates
Many landlords require their tenants to maintain some form of renters insurance coverage.
Renters insurance generally covers liability costs if you’re at fault for property damage or injury to others. It also covers your personal property and living expenses if you’re displaced from your home.
You’ll want to discuss how to manage renters insurance with your roommates or purchase coverage on your own. Here are some questions that can help you decide:
Whether you decide to purchase joint or separate policies, it’s good to note for budgeting purposes that the average cost of renters insurance is about $13 per month when paying a $500 deductible for $100,000 of liability coverage and $20,000 of personal property coverage.
5. Learn How to Handle a Roommate Who Can’t Pay the Rent
Falling behind on your rent can present a myriad of problems, including expensive late payment fees and the possibility of eviction. Unfortunately, this could occur if your roommate doesn’t pay their portion of the rent on time.
If you find yourself in this situation, consider the following steps for having a healthy and productive conversation with your roommate:
Approach your roommate with patience and understanding
You might feel frustrated with your roommate if they have failed to pay their portion of the rent, but patience and understanding can improve your chances of resolving the issue.
When speaking, stay focused on the topic at hand and reassure your roommate that your goal is to pay the rent on time, not argue.
After you’ve identified why your roommate can’t pay, brainstorm together to come up with a solution.
If you have an emergency fund set aside, you could pull from it for the time being and work on strategies with your roommate to replenish it as soon as possible.
If there is no emergency fund, you could check with your landlord to see if you can get an extension to pay your rent. You might also weigh the benefits and risks of a personal loan.
Agree on a plan
Once you’ve brainstormed together, you and your roommate can write out a plan that you both agree to and then add your signatures.
If your roommate continuously fails to pay their portion of the rent, you’ll have to decide how to move forward. You typically can’t evict your roommate, so it’s important to discuss the possibility of them exiting the lease willingly with your landlord’s approval.
As a worst-case scenario, if your roommate won’t leave and won’t pay, you might have to consider taking them to court.
Your Best Chance With Roommates
To have the best chance of saving money and living with roommates, you need to pay your bills in full and on time.
Clear communication, organization, budgeting and financial planning between you and your roommates can go a long way in helping you tackle living expenses while saving money in the process — and having a positive experience together.
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- FINRA Investor Education Foundation. "Financial Anxiety and Stress among U.S. Households: New Evidence from the National Financial Capability Study and Focus Groups." Accessed February 22, 2022.
- U.S. Census Bureau. "Current Population Survey, 2019 and 2020 Annual Social and Economics Supplements." Accessed February 22, 2022.